Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Communication

In Deborah Tannen essay about how men are more likely to succed in public school than women because of their different ways of communicating. The thesis of this essay was about communication styles between men and women and how different they are. As Tannen points out that "a girl has a best friend with whom she sits and talks, frequently telling secrets" (403). Girls make friends based on sharing secrets. While boys make friends by hierarchical status. As Tannen talks about boys playing in larger groups, while the high-status boys give orders and push low-staus boys around. This shows how how girls and boys make frieeds and thier different way of communication. Tannen also talks about the American communication styles between men and women. Women tend to bond over by talking about their troubles, while men bond by exchanging playful insults and put-downs. One of the things that shocked me was when Tannen stated that schools are more hospitable to most men than women. I know that they want it to be equal for both but one way or another the teaching methods will always be more hospitable to either men or women. When teaching like a debate like format, it will be more generous to men while non debate like formats where women believe they are not being attacked are more suitable to women. While men are more likely to talk in class and share their input on the subject, women are still known for talking to much.
Question: By having seperate schools for boys and girls, would it really be equal?

5 comments:

  1. I liked the information that used in your essay for the topic.

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  2. I was also extremely shocked by Tannen's theory that boys learn better in larger groups than girls, because I always have felt that girls are much more active in class than boys, and boys are always somewhat quiet. It just emphasizes how many different theories there are about different subject matters.

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  3. i did not know that women talks more than men ..good information

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  4. I agree with chaitanya. I grew in the environment where girls tend to speak up more andit was expected too. In her theory, she thinks boys speak up more to show their talents. However, in the environmentboys felt that speaking up in class more means they are becoming nerds. This s not a good sign for them. It is interesting how people from different country think differently.

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